Welcome to episode #10 of the To Do Lists of the Semi-Adult podcast where Rae and I talk about figuring out what you want and how to own it.
Rae and I feel like this “semi-adult” stage of our life is all about figuring out what is going to make you happy in life. Sometimes it’s about trying new things, sometimes it’s about realizing that there are things you don’t want, such as working nights or having an inconsistent schedule. It’s always about making the best decision for yourself at the time with the information you have. If later, you change your mind or realize that’s not actually what you want, you can make some changes. Just because you invest time in a pursuit that ultimately doesn’t make you happy doesn’t mean it was a waste of time.
Internet experts believe part of this whole process is to analyze the feelings behind your desires. Rae and I shared different articles about this including a Huffington Post dating column and an article from Oprah’s website.
We also mention what to do when people tell you that you shouldn’t want or not want something. One example is Rae’s cool new purple hair — she was afraid to tell people about her decision before it was done, because she thought someone might talk her out of it. The takeaways from that are: you totally don’t have to tell anyone what you want, it’s OK to keep it to yourself. But if you are put on the spot –like mothers asking me if I want kids — and you want to answer truthfully — “nope, not ever” — realize that people’s doubts of your decision are mostly them justifying their decisions to themselves.
In the lightning round, Rae talks about finishing up The Magician’s Land, and I’m not reading anything at all, but I am working on an embroidery project of Vincent Van Gogh’s Starry Night. Rae tried out the ingredient/recipe delivery service Blue Apron last week and loved it, and I made some wonderful banh mi inspired meatballs (that are low-carb, keto-friendly and gluten-free).
So that’s what’s going on this week on the podcast. Will you be our Internet friends? Rae can be found at raesdays.com, on Instagram and Twitter, and at raesdays(at)gmail(dot)com. Jewels is at ovenlovinblog.com, on Instagram and Twitter, and at jewelsphraner(at)gmail(dot)com.